me vs. you; beauty is not a competition
I have been struggling to write this post for several months now. Anyone who follows me on Twitter has probably seen a couple of my rants about the definition of beauty this summer. I have been wanting to turn those rants into a blog post, so I’m going to try.
I hit my peak of anger on the topic of beauty yesterday. Someone posted an article on Facebook about the ever so talked about thigh gaps. (if I see another article condemning or praising thigh gaps, I may vomit.)
Going into reading the article I had high hopes that for once I would read about how women with thigh gaps are beautiful and women without thigh gaps are beautiful. Instead, I was thoroughly disgusted and disappointed.
Ladies, why do we constantly need to condemn other peoples bodies to make ourselves feel better about our own bodies? We have got to stop this horrible habit. We have turned the definition of beautiful into a comparison of one persons body next to our own. I know, because I am guilty of it too.
That is not beauty! I know this is going to sound totally clichè, but just stick with me okay?
Your beauty is not defined by your outward appearance. The Apostle Peter explains this so well in the bible.
“Your beauty should not consist of outward things like elaborate hairstyles and the wearing of gold ornaments or fine clothes.” (1 Peter 3:3 HCSB)
I am going to take the liberty to add a little to that list Peter made for us. Your beauty does not consist of elaborate hairstyle, jewelry, or clothing. It also does not consist of your waist size, hip size, bust size, whether you have a thigh gap or not, if you have a round face or an oval face. It does not matter because you are who you are. We are all made uniquely, and that is the most beautiful part of it all. There is not another person on this planet with the exact same shade of hair as you or the exact same body shape!
Therefore, embrace the outward appearance you DO have. God specially created you to be you, and no one else. He did not create you to be someone else, and he did not define your personal beauty based on someone else’s!
To keep going with Peter’s words, his next verse is the most true form of beauty imaginable.
“Instead, it should consist of what is inside the heart with the imperishable quality of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is very valuable in God’s eyes.” (1 Peter 3:4 HCSB)
The inside is what counts. Your beauty is defined by Christ’s presence in your heart & your life. Our beauty is a reflection of Christ, and his glory. After he thought of you, he decided you were good and he said “you are altogether beautiful.” Simply because you were, are and always will be a reflection of God.
What a joy that is! True beauty is not looking at another girl and thinking “she has a great thigh gap and she is so pretty, I’ll never be like that.” True beauty isn’t looking at another girl and thinking, “she has so many curves and I don’t, so I must be better looking than her.”
True beauty is looking in the mirror and thinking, “God made me who I am and I am beautiful because of Him!”
So, now I have a proposition for all you ladies out there. Stop putting other people’s body types down simply because you are ashamed of your own and want to feel pretty. Stop putting down your own body because you don’t think it’s good enough to meet the standard of beauty. You hurt both sides of the spectrums this way.
I have a thigh gap, and I was born this way. But when I read an article saying “real women have curves and no thigh gaps” that really hurts me. At the same time, when I read an article or a billboard that encourages women to get a thigh gap, I have the same feelings of hurt.
Because ladies, you are all beautiful on your own. Each and every one of you is beautiful. You are beautiful because God created you. You are beautiful because God is within you. You are beautiful because you are you, and no one else! So please, start embracing that! I am begging you!
When you look at another girl and start to compare your body to hers, or when you look in the mirror and all you can think about is how unhappy you are with your body… tell yourself to stop. Stop thinking the lies, and meditate on nothing but the truth.
“You are absolutely beautiful, my darling, with no imperfection in you.” (Song of Songs 4:7 HCSB)
God loves your body, and I love your body. God thinks you are beautiful, and I think you’re beautiful! Now it’s up to you to think it!